Genealogists frequently stress the importance of labeling photographs so that future generations know who’s who. This is true even for our own photographs that we take today. But while we may forget who are friends were twenty years later, would we forget a relative? I can now tell you that yes, it’s possible, especially if the photograph in question was taken before you were born.
This past weekend I started a “Bergmeister Family” group on Facebook for all of my cousins. I asked if anyone had wedding photos of my grandmother’s siblings. When my cousin posted this photograph of her grandparents, I nearly fell out of my chair. This is the lovely wedding photo of Joseph Bergmeister and Helen Pardus from 1924:
Why was this so surprising? Because I own a copy of this photo! In fact, I’ve posted this photo on this very blog. And in that post, the photo was not identified as my dad’s uncle and his wife, but as my mom’s aunt and her husband!
I called my mother. “I thought you said that was your Aunt Helen! It’s Dad’s Aunt Helen and Uncle Joe!” Without seeing the photo over the phone, she wasn’t sure what to say. But she did say, “That’s funny, I don’t ever remember seeing a photo of my Aunt Helen.” Perhaps she identified “Aunt Helen” and I assumed it was her aunt instead of my dad’s. Whatever the case, I have had this couple misidentified for years!
Sometimes identification of individuals in a photo is tricky. But my humorous story proves that sometimes you may be wrong even when a relative helps with the identification. The funniest part of this story is that the photo was previously posted in June, 2009 as the Tiernan-Zawodny wedding. Several of the Bergmeister-Pardus grandchildren have visited this blog, but they would not have found the photo of their grandparents since it was listed under the “Zawodny” label, so they didn’t notice the error. What’s even funnier is that I sent the photo to my mother’s cousin who should have recognized – or rather not recognized – the faces. Even though he is around my mother’s age and, like her, was born well after this photo, he is a blood relative to both the Tiernan’s and the Zawodny’s since one brother-sister combination married another (his parents). But even he didn’t set me straight.
Sometimes it pays to trust your instinct…I often looked at this photo and had two thoughts. First, the woman – or rather the woman I thought she was – looked nothing like my grandmother and her sisters. Of course not, because she’s not related to them! And second, the man – who I thought I was not related to – looked rather familiar. Of course he does, because he looks very much like my great-grandfather (his father) and my father (his nephew)!
I didn’t realize I had a “photo mystery” on my hands, but it’s nice to finally find out the truth about this couple! Now I have to, uh, amend my post about the alleged Tiernan-Zawodny wedding!